Wife having emotional affair 5

[3kids]

Advise and or opions

I've been at this for a long time. I've had my wife come at me with something sort of like this before. This time was a little different. This time she was very remorse full. She messed up. Should have never done this (OM). Wants to take it all back. Even stated the one comment that I've been dieing to hear "it's not true that if moms happy the kids will be happy. I messed them up." I let her lead the questions and they came like this. How do we make this work? I can't just jump into your house, I would like to do counseling or dating. If I did move in because I don't or can't afford a place to live. How would it work, because I don't want to screw up the kids any worse. I don't want them to be scared if we have a fight that we are going to break up right away. Why do you even want to be with me still? I know if the roles where reversed I couldn't be like this with you. Where do we start? What do we say to the kids?

There was a ton of crying and asking why she still isn't happy. How she knows she needs professional help. I did ask about OM. She said she has to stop with him but is scared. I didn't push to much on that because she was very histarical. Not the time yet. She made a few comments on how hard this was going to be and wish should could just go back in time and it would be easier.

So from past advise, this is the plan. Going to sit on my blanket and enjoy my life. Let her do some work or come to me. I did offer for her to sleep on my couch that night and she excepted but after a while she said it was to weird and left. Just one phone call yesterday for me to take the oldest to the dentist but a request to keep him till she got out of school. So we will see where this all goes, slowwwwwww. Unfortunely she has less then one month to leave our old house. So somethings have to move faster then others. Ideal situation she would live some other place while we figure this out.

Well that's the new story line for now.

Thanks,
3kids