I am right there with you, exact same thoughts and ideas, thank you for teaching and helping me .
W came home this morning, a little late, but it did snow a good amount over night and she let me know she would be.
She said that she cut it off with OM, and that she wants to work on our marriage. We agreed on a tentative plan. Identify problems we have had in the past, and work on them. In a week, if we feel like we need it, we will seek a MC. We are both aware of many of the issues already, just need to really sit down and get through them.
W said (on her own) that she is going to change her meeting times (hopefully without telling OM to what). Seems like she understands that there is to be no contact. I mentioned that it will take a bit to gain her trust again. She acknowledged. I did not mention exactly what I want with respect to gaining that trust, but plan to do that this evening, per your list. I did not have time this morning.
I did notice she put her wedding band back on. When leaving, I was showing my affections to S3. She approaches me, kisses me, and says "I really do love you." Hopefully this is not a facade...
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