Legal S is what I would like to happen in my sitch. In the UK, a deed of S would be ageed that has no legal standing as such, but carries a lot of 'weight' with the courts when you come to D. My S explained that a deed normally stands as the basis for the D unless something really big changed - like one party had an accident and couldn't work any more.
In some countries, the S seems to have more legal standing. In the UK, you can't have a 'no fault' D until you have been S for 2 years and that is my aim - that we S, and don't D until that timescale has passed. I figure if we haven't reconciled by that point, I may well feel it's time to move on and we can D with 'no fault' which is a nicer process.
Without looking back I can't recall if you've seen a L? It would be a good idea if you haven't already. They can explain how a LS could work. I would also say that sitches on the boards vary and you are still at eary stages. Some people agree a LS pretty much at the start - others keep things informal for longer. Does that keep the road home paved smoother? IDK - but it can be more risky in terms of assets and finances.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
