Wife left me three weeks ago!

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Hi Toots,

Thanks for your input. After some reflection this morning I guess you are right. It is a fine balance between detaching and being cold, angry etc as it says in DR. I don't want to be overly friendly at the moment but I as I wrote before I don't want to be seen as being the angry, distant one who doesn't want to talk/communicate at all.

W has texted me twice already this morning. It is now 7.30am here. Once was about childcare arrangements, and the other time was a picture message of my son's tooth that has fallen out. I have not yet replied to the messages. I am going to give it some time so it doesn't appear as if I am sat by the phone waiting for her to call/text etc. I don't think I will be seeing my children today which is such a shame. I do think the LRT is having some affect already though.

If we go back a week wife was being incredibly nasty to me on various occasions. I have taken a stand or two since and she now appears to have understood that I won't be walked all over from now on. She has also started to be more polite to me for the most part, although not all the time. I mentioned possible reasons for this a few posts ago.

I am going to try and walk the fine line between being pleasant but being busy/distant and ending conversations first, leaving before I really have to, for the next short period and see what happens. As I've written, I do get the sense that she is starting to soften slightly. I don't think there is any remorse or regret about anything she has done yet, and certainly no sudden change of heart, but then maybe there hasn't been the time for her to reflect upon exactly what she has done/is doing just yet.