I think the best demeanour to aim for is pleasant, breezy, busy, distant...
So, your W shouldn't think that you are being narky - just that you have lots going on in your life and limited time to interact.
From what you're saying, you may want to 'up' the pleasantness - ie: not refusing to speak, but being the one to break off the convo first as you have something else on etc.
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
