My story

[EyeTie]

She called tonight to check on our daughter who is under the weather. We ended up chatting for 45 minutes about all sorts of things. Never once did I bring up the R, just kept it casual. It was a complete change of pace and a very welcoming one. One big issue we had is that my son asked me today "Is it always going to be like this, you living here and Mommy living in her house?" and I said "Well buddy, only God knows our future, but for now, this is how it is." When I told her that she said "you should have said that we are never getting back together and yes." I said "Well, since I don't own a crystal ball, I didn't feel comfortable telling him that." She got quiet.

Now, sometime ago on these forums, a WAW made a comment that stuck in my ear. She said that if her husband said a certain phrase, it might change things. I used said phrase. I said "Hey, I just want you to know that I understand that you had your reasons for leaving, also I forgive you for doing so and I will never hold it against you." I thought she hung up on me. I asked if she was still there and she meekly said "yes..." and I repeated it again. She just sat there, quiet, hearing what I was saying to her. For the first time since I can remember she was speechless. I then followed with, "I have to log back in for work, I will talk to you soon, have a great day tomorrow" and left it at that.

I guess we will see what tomorrow brings, but for now I am a bit more optimistic about things.