OK, feeling better today. Just got back from spending the past two days on a midweek mini-vacation. Drove to a resort town an hour away, stayed overnight at a spa resort, got a massage, spent lots of time relaxing in various pools/showers/etc. They even have an outdoor heated pool and hot tub that are open in the winter, which is surprisingly lovely even when it's 10 degrees (F) out! Lots of time to calm myself and do meditative-type things. Did some shopping at the outlet mall and went to a casino, too.

I'm not so worried or concerned about H anymore. That's in the past at this point. One of the things he said during that last phone call was "Maybe we could have talked about things and made it work.. but I wasn't really interested in that." In terms of a partner, I want someone who is communicative, who is willing to problem-solve, and be open about what's bothering them. It seems STBX is not that type of person. Definitely not now, maybe he wasn't ever. So, time to focus on what's right for me and what I DO want in my life.

So of all of the single guys I've been introduced to lately... the one guy who I wasn't particularly interested in/didn't really find attractive, was of course the one who reached out to me (sent me a message yesterday saying "hope you're having a relaxing time away!). I wonder if I've set my standards too high? It's hard to know who is within your "league" or not. I've never really had to think about it or worry about it until now. Hmm...


Me:30 H:29, no kids
T:12, M:4 (when D was final)
12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore"
6/14: Separated (I move)
1/15: H filed for D
5/15: D final