I sent her many love songs through email. I also sent different quotes from the Notebook her favorite movie. Plus I wrote her many apology letters in email form. I have not done any of that in about 3 weeks now but those are the mistakes I made early on that had her continue to pull away.
Originally Posted By: errod
I said a line to her 3 weeks ago that she brings up every time we argue. I told love is choice not a feeling.
I know I am trying to think with logic and logic got me in trouble.
You say you stopped making many of the emotional mistakes 3 weeks ago but go on to say she keeps bringing up that comment about love in all of your arguments. What are you arguing about all the time now and why does it keep going to something involving love? What starts the conversation that leads into the argument? Who directs it there? If you lead any conversation into your relationship your still showing your emotions to her, you need to stop pursuing.
I know its not easy, you want answers and talking sometimes leads to answers(or so you think). I have struggled with the same issue but I'm starting to notice the error in this thinking and I'm avoiding it much better.
Stop trying to change her mind or reason with her, you cant. Logic really wont help you at all. All your actions are just hurting your own image. Being an emotional person is hard, I am one myself, but you have to get a handle on it. She doesn't care how you feel right now, try not to take it too personal.
Shes mad at you because the friend tried to defend you, he took your side. Doesn't matter if that was his intention or not, she sees it as you pursuing her through him. Its best to just not talk to people.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
