Ganb8te 5 - Escaping the abyss

[Zelda09]

In my humble experiences, trying to communicate anything about feelings or past R in email, text...doesn't work. These are emotional statements, best served up with eye contact and feeling - if you can get to them. Love letters good- reflective monologues not good.

I like Calibri's approach. Failing that, show up on his doorstop, grinning like an old friend. As my H's friend told me, it's about doing what is in your heart and what is right for you - don't worry about how he'll take it, that's up to him. No regrets.

Learn about him and where he's coming from before you try to express your thoughts, I think.

An evening can start off light and go in infinite directions. The point would be to connect about anything - past joys, regrets even, new bands, support and excitement for his life goals, acceptance, unconditional love, flirt, however you want to roll that burrito if you can create the chance, light on expectations.

I wish I had specific ideas for you :-/