Thanks V, Edz and RD - appreciate the comments. RD, I'll maybe see if she'll throw in a movie and dinner next time! I plan to just pay the bill and chalk it down to experience. Minimise the time there and prepare really well so it all runs smoothly. I'd like to stick with her - she seems great.

As for broaching things with H - well I still don't know, but I've told myself I'll do nothing for now anyway. I just posted on Edz' thread - I feel H popped up out of his hole - dropped a huge bomb - then disappeared right down again and hasn't been seen since!

Oh well. Hoping to diversify with my freelance work and emailed my CV off to someone today. It is speculative, and I don't have much hope for it - but thought I'd give it a try. I also heard back from Relate, and have a meeting set up next month about a possible infidelity support group - exciting!

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus