Hi U-turn, sorry you're finding it hard. It may be good if someone who has successfully pieced can give you some advice.

It sounds as though your W may want to rush back in and it has all happened very fast. Plus you've both had this huge, recent trauma.

There are things that you know you need, but you haven't asked for them and she is now wondering what is happening as she can see something's up. You have been trying to look after her at the expense of yourself and maybe now is the time to ask for what you need.

Have you had a look at DR again - the infidelity chapter and step number 3 ask for what you want. Why is your trust waning again - is your spidey sense telling you something?

Last edited by Toots; 03/04/15 08:27 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus