Rysin, sorry things haven't started well with your W staying. I agree that you should confirm boundaries with her. I don't think you should avoid female friends because of what your W says. But I do think you should take care to ensure your interactions with them stand up well to any scrutiny. Otherwise, your W is welcome to whatever thoughts she may have...IMHO.
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