My STBX is from around the Syracuse area. I don’t know how much of his professed insularity is real and how much of it is a pose. He has actually lived in quite a few places. He went to college close to home – but then at some point his senior year he dropped out (he said he was burned out from going to classes, working full time and being in a fraternity)and proceeded to work as a chef in various locations throughout the country for about 5 years . Side note – I never paid too much attention to this period in his life before – it seemed just like 20s aimlessness. I went through a similar period myself (fun fact about Raliced- I was once a Vegas cocktail waitress). Now, it’s a lot more interesting to me, because it seems like another time when he just dropped everything and ran away. Then his mom got breast cancer (she beat it thankfully), and while she was going through treatment, he came home and finished his degree at her request. After she was recovered, he took off again, lived and worked with some friends in Vegas and met me. I've had the thought lately that maybe the return home interrupted whatever it was he was working through and now it’s come back with a vengeance.
I dunno, I have a little bit of a hard time with the “I’m just a simple country boy” routine, but I do get that is who he wants to be and I think he is trying very hard to see himself that way right now. That’s for him to work out. I just don’t want him casting me as the materialistic city slicker to the girls. Although, I’m sure they might eventually notice that we live on 10 acres and live adjacent to a town with only 15,000 residents (most are squirreled away in the mountains). Not exactly a mega metropolis.
Anyway – I sent him a note with a few logistics for the week and included a request to call me when he has a few spare minutes. I will discuss his comments to D6 then. This is actually a 180 for me – I’m not avoiding this conflict with him.
