Moved too fast? Now what?

[Bing]

I'm reeling a bit today.

Called wife at work and initiated a conversation about setting boundaries around our marriage. I said I will not be in an open marriage because it makes me feel disrespected and betrayed. I said if she chooses to continue having her affair, I will be pursuing a divorce.

I asked if she would continue her affair or consider working to repair our relationship. She said she was sorry for hurting me but we never had a foundation to our marriage to begin with. There is nothing to rebuild. This is something her therapist has suggested to her as well!

I then sought to enforce my boundaries. I said I wanted to separate finances immediately and set up a rotating parenting plan. This then led down the path of her asking if someone should move out and I told her my preference would be for her to move out.

I'm feeling this has sealed the deal but I didn't think I had a choice. Her affair is as strong as ever and she is communicating with OM everyday.

Please help me understand what I should do now. And where I screwed up big time so others may learn from my mistakes and I might be in a healthier relationship with someone else.