still moving on

[Ahoy]

Yeah, she doesn't want to tell him how she feels because she thinks he will get angry at her. And she says he doesn't want to know how she really feels because he just wants everything to be happy and normal.
I just keep encouraging her to keep an open line of communication with him and to tell him when she is uncomfortable, whether he is able to hear her right now or not. She tried this -- talking to him about how she wanted to keep the house to stay near friends instead of sell it to buy another place nearby -- and he dismissed her (he could afford the house easily, so there is something else motivating him in that regard, probably related to his AP).

She says that she fell down the stairs and he didn't bother to ask if she was okay. She texted me to say that he seemed to care more about the dog than her. She says that when she's at his place, he just works all the time and doesn't interact with her (he has "poor time management" according to her). In fact, H complained that he hadn't been able to take care of some of our dissolution paperwork because he was being "interrupted every hour" in the evenings by her. (!!!)

I guess I'm just surprised that he is so checked out as a parent and so oblivious to her needs, being so wrapped up in his own right now.

I feel good about moving forward with the dissolution, but I feel terrible for D14. And helpless.