This need not be the end.

[Ahoy]

Barry, thank you for your encouragement on my thread. I'm glad to see you taking care of yourself (meeting with a lawyer and figuring out your rights) in spite of not really wanting a divorce. I'm in the same position. I think you're right to be cautious about her "generous" offer. Definitely have a lawyer advise you on how to proceed with that. And make sure everything is in writing. Don't count on her to make payments on things unless they are exclusively in her name. Perhaps that's why she's asking for so little -- she doesn't want to assume the debt. It would be good to crunch the numbers and see how things really stand.

I'm glad you're able to think back on the good times without pain. That is really healthy. I wish I were able to do that. Right now, I look back and wonder if he was being phoney the whole time. His rewriting of history and his current actions cast a shadow on the past.

You sound like you're moving forward and taking care of yourself. Keep up the good work.