Wife left me three weeks ago!

[twinmom]

Alpha, no one can give you a timeline. BUT I can promise you as long as you are in a tug of war with your wife you won't be able to progress forward.
The conflict should not come from you but from natural consequences of her actions and (most likely OM)

Let the "parenting plan" be the bad guy when she wants you to do an extra pick up/drop off from school.

Neighborly nice, trust me it was impossible for me some days,