I hear you. I've also been telling people that -- mostly because I had to because things like the electric bill aren't in my name and require action on his part. I hate the pity I see from them and I hate the finagling.
I hope your daughter feels better and that you can help her find some coping skills.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15