Wife left me three weeks ago!

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Good advice, twinmom. Thank you for helping me see the other side of things. I don't want to be controlling or a doormat and it is hard finding a middle ground. 6pm was mentioned as a time but I said it might not be bang on that time. You're right though of course, I'm going to have a look at my work and comottments over the next week and let her know them so things are set.

Do you have any idea in general how long this phase may last. I know that's an impossible question. The fear of course is pushing W further away. Some things seem counterintuitive. I wonder once things are in place like a parenting plan and little contact/interaction, how long it will be before the next chapter begins...hopefully where she initiates contact and becomes curious. I see signs of that now but things tend to blend into one another and it is difficult to tell where I am sometimes. I am trying to look at the bigger picture and not the minutae of everything but again that's so difficult when you're the one living through it. I would say things are better than a week ago though, so I guess that's progress.