BklynMom, I'm sorry your h is questioning you about how you are raising your children. He has absolutely nothing else to complain about.
I do have one concern which, as you will recall, is very near and dear to my heart. Please, please start weaning your child off that pacifier. It is going to create all kinds of trouble with her speech and her teeth. She's old enough now to substitute a stuffed animal for the pacifier. I would hate to see her go to school and kids make fun of her speech. Kids can be very cruel and then your child will not want to participate in activities for fear of being teased.
As for her sleeping in your bed, you will eventually need to place her in her own bed...but that will come in time. Get her a nice stuffed bunny at Easter and tell her that's her new sleepy time friend and then gradually take the pacifier away from her. Eventually the bunny will take its place.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
