Wife left me three weeks ago!

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Picked kids up at the door today. W just got in the car and said she needed to go to school and would come with me. I said I wasn't happy that she just assumed she could go with me. She asked why I was being so narky with her, why she couldn't just come with me as she had done recently. She wanted me to go and get a new key cut for her. I said I had plans. She complained that I didn't even have five minutes for her. I said I had plans, she'd given me no notice, and I couldnt just drop things for her, would get a key cut another day. She asked again what days I would available this week. I told her I was very busy. In the next week I have five days where I'm doing something. She didn't believe me that I was actually doing things as previously my friends only go out once every blue moon. I do actually have plans though as I've been GAL. She seemed quite shocked and in disbelief as I said. She asked if I had a good night last night when I was out. There was no reference made to last night's phone call regarding the house. She did say I was being an @rse because of my attitude this morning. I didn't shout or really answer back but was more inclined than recently to stand up for myself. When she asked why I was so busy, I said 'like you said, we are separated and so my plans aren't really any if your business'. She said, fine, you can do and see who you like cos I don't care. Her tone of voice showed clearly that wasn't true. I think it is slowly dawning on her that I'm not going to chase her anymore and I am actually getting on with things.

Finally, I outlined to the kids what we'd do this evening. W heard this of course. She tried to set a time I would have them back for. I said I'd have them back when I was ready. Agreed to text her when heading back. Definitely I have more power than previously at the moment thanks to standing up for myself more. I get the feeling she may be starting to wonder why I'm not chasing her, crying etc, and I also get the feeling that she thinks I'm seeing someone else...which I'm not.