I agree with you phunguy. I feel you. I also pray constantly. I keep waiting for an answer. But nothing yet. I know it is coming. If I keep praying, God will answer. I also have started looking at my future. The one thing I am taking from this so far is that I may not have learned what I needed to change about myself had I not had to go through this. Kinda a crappy way to do it. I was very stubborn before. I would have rather had her sit down and say I am leaving you if you don't work on these things with me. I also am finding my boundaries like you. I am getting on with my life, if she wants to come along and see how good it can be than things need to change. If not then God has someone else in mind for me. But right now I am concentrating on my kids. I am new here and can't offer advice, but I am here to listen. We are close in age.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"