So D14 having rough day today. Lots of crying. She says H talks about his new GF all the time and it makes her uncomfortable. I told her that she should tell him it makes her uncomfortable. She's afraid he will get mad at her if she does and punish her by making her stay with him (instead of moving to home state with me). I told her that wouldn't happen, and that even though I'm not H's biggest fan right now, that I do know that he loves her and that none of this is her fault. Despite his actions, he loves her. She said, "Sometimes it doesn't feel like it. He never says he loves me first. I always have to say it to him."
Can I just say -- this is heartbreaking? And there is nothing I can do. I can't tell H this, as he will find a way to turn it against me and accuse me of something. And it's none of my business. It makes me crazy that he can't see what he's doing to his daughter. That he thinks she's okay (according to her own words), when she clearly is not.
She said she didn't want to make "big-girl decisions" (meaning about the move). I confirmed that she was okay with the move, in spite of it being hard to leave friends behind, and then assured her that her dad and I would make the decisions, so she need not worry in that regard.
I hate that he is doing this to her, and he is SO BLIND. I actually passed him in his car on my way to STD testing today. I felt physically repulsed at the sight of him. Nothing in the world could convince me to go back to him the way he is now. But still, everything I believed in and trusted to be true has been ripped away. It is so painful for me and D14, but H is floating around in his happy affair bubble. ARGH!
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
