Can someone link me to Sandi's advice about ML during this time. I saw a reference to something she said, but haven't been able to find it.

So far, I'm still playing it cool. Haven't initiated contact since yesterday afternoon. I can feel the tension building. Sticking to my guns, since I know I'll be going home tomorrow. Really wishing there was a PDF version or ebook of DR that I could download and start reading immediately.

As much help is there on these threads, I think it almost makes detaching more difficult. I'll get to a good spot in my head and think I've detached, even momentarilly, then I read a few posts and start to feel very angry and resentful. I'll go on another walk telling myself to detach and every thing seems to be a little bit better.

I just wish I had more guidance and understood better what is going on in my W's head. I wish she'd tell me about an A so that I could just get over that emotional hurdle.

M: 8 years, together 9
M: 41 W: 32
D 4, S 6
ILYBINILWY 2/10/15
2/14/15-2/22/15 Left home
4/5/15 Suspect A, Initiated Sandi's advice from WW thread
4/19/15 W asked for D