Hey, V. I am guessing that you know how hard it is with in-house separation more than me. I could not continue it and it is much easier now, (for me) without H in the house. He and I both own this house that S and I are living in, and while I am currently paying the bills here, he and I will still have to work all the financial aspects out at some point. Hang in there with whatever you are dealing with. Your H's ignorance is disgusting, though.
My IC thinks H is perceiving he has unmet needs T so she suggests that I passively mirror back what H says. By using I think, believe, feel....
For example I think you are using abusive language. I think you are saying you have an unmet need. I believe that was intend to be hurtful. I feel disrespected when you said that. So rather than listen to I am racist etc..... I can say, I think that was intended to press my buttons and I would like peace this evening.
So if I take ownership of my reaction a little more then H will have to stop.
T, I absolutely agree H could self moderate and he clearly is being impulsive in his behaviour, so it would be best if I just let him run away with it and be impervious.
I am enjoying using my Perspex shield which I wash with a power hose.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
