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[Vanilla]

Thank you all for checking in.

Major financial crisis here! A whole load of client receipts have gone missing and as cash flow very poor (due to lack of invoicing) bank bounced payments going out.

Frantic time as bills unpaid, managed to get a personal loan to cover it, but has been very dire. For once not H fault!

So all calm now, just back and I have a huge uphill battle with the banks and creditors.....

Fortunately no credit card payments missing or deposits to my client account. Looks like identity fraud so fraud office at bank etc........

Actually easier to deal with than H. I rang one of my big customers too who has prepaid his bill. Will need to chase small outstanding invoices and muddle through.

Some good news, V loves her little red car and is enjoying driving it. It is great to be back on site and have been desperate to post but absolutely no privacy and needed to know if my laptops and ipad we're going to be examined. As H is a compulsive gambler that worried me if there would be backlash. Seems like it is a banking intercept, a diversion of my receipts to a dummy account, so nothing to do with V or H. But may take some time before the cash arrives back. Looks like cheque theft.

I apologise for my posting shortcomings. Normal service is resumed and position will be rectified.

Expect much rambling............

V

[Vanilla]

Hey, V. I am guessing that you know how hard it is with in-house separation more than me. I could not continue it and it is much easier now, (for me) without H in the house. He and I both own this house that S and I are living in, and while I am currently paying the bills here, he and I will still have to work all the financial aspects out at some point. Hang in there with whatever you are dealing with. Your H's ignorance is disgusting, though.

My IC thinks H is perceiving he has unmet needs T so she suggests that I passively mirror back what H says. By using I think, believe, feel....

For example I think you are using abusive language. I think you are saying you have an unmet need. I believe that was intend to be hurtful. I feel disrespected when you said that. So rather than listen to I am racist etc..... I can say, I think that was intended to press my buttons and I would like peace this evening.

So if I take ownership of my reaction a little more then H will have to stop.

T, I absolutely agree H could self moderate and he clearly is being impulsive in his behaviour, so it would be best if I just let him run away with it and be impervious.

I am enjoying using my Perspex shield which I wash with a power hose.

V

[edz]

Yay v's back. Sorry to hear about the problems I'm glad youre ok though

[Vanilla]

Thinking of you, V.

I'll admit to having a little fantasy where V drives up in her little red car, looking happy and just generally rocking it...smiling at H, and saying, "Peace, I'm outta here. Good luck to you, I certainly tried, but I intend to live my life with someone who values me. Or at least not like this."

Fancy a lift Z?

V

[Vanilla]

Edz, Toots, Dawn, and RD

I am ok, a little down about cash but that is practical stuff after all. It's only money and I suppose the bank will have to pay it, when they discover that we had no involvement.

There are nasty people in the big wide world of the Internet.

Jb thank you for your post, do visit often. I can sense that Jb has a great deal of wisdom to offer.

How is the BFT? Tell him I have some spare salmon on offer.

Tons of love and hugs from V

V

[edz]

Bft snoozing next to my leg on the sofa v snoring and purring, spurring? She is however a her

[Old Dog]

Glad to see you back V. Everyone was getting worried you'd overGALed this time.

[Vanilla]

Bft snoozing next to my leg on the sofa v snoring and purring, spurring? She is however a her

Another sex change by V, I seem to be fond of those.

BFT, I apologise.....

Humbly and with a lot of loving compensation by way of chicken

V

[Vanilla]

OD

A whole weekend of Ceroc to come that will be GAL and a half!

V

[edz]

Bft says she's happy regardless as long as there's chicken involved...

... Just please don't feed her cheese .. Things...happen when she eats cheese and they're normally on my duvet