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[Closer2]

We had a pretty good night last night. We discussed getting the house ready to sell. She told me she wants to spend the weekends with her mom so I can spend more time with the kids. I told her that I could see that me spending more time with the kids was important to her. The old me would have said I spend a lot of time with the kids now. She just wants to go to her mom's house so she can call and IM the OM. I would have also argued that going to her mom's house every weekend is not going to help me get this house ready to sell. Guess I'll be getting help from the kiddos on that project.

She told me wants to stay in the house during the week only because she wants to be with the kids. I tried to use that as an opportunity to set some boundaries. I said she could stay if she could agree to not text, IM, or call OM while I was in the house (set that one a while ago and she has been good about it). I also asked her to avoid arguing or discussing our divorce around the kids until we are ready to put the house on the market and ease up on spending money like one of the real housewives.

If she doesn't respect the boundaries I will ask her to leave the house and will cut her off financially.

She did apologized for telling me this entire situation was my fault and I drove her to have an affair. That she felt horrible for starting this EA (not horrible enough to stop it) and for not talking to me instead of OM. She started to cry a bit and I felt that she was being honest with me. I tried to validate and said I could see how stressful this was for her and that I appreciated her telling me that. I hate seeing her so upset and crying.

After a bit more conversation, she wanted to watch the Bachelor (yay, more crazy ideas about fantasy love)and I went to my office to do some work. 15 minutes later she asked me to come and rub her back. The next thing I know, I was in the bed rubbing her back. I think I teleported back in there. DOH!

No sex though. I'm not going to lie and say I didn't try. She shot me down rather nicely. I know shouldn't have even been in there rubbing her back. I should have told her I need to get some work done. Cripes that is major weakness she knows how to exploit. I'm working on it.