She didn't talk about PEA today, but did talk about how her emotional connection to OM was actively blocking her from reconnecting with me.
Absolutely!
I think your W and I can relate in our experiences. And remember, I was coming here every single night until I would nearly drop.......and then go to bed and think about all the "what ifs" until I finally fell asleep. I hate to think what it would have been like if I had not received help from the board. She is getting help from the C, although it's not a daily feed.
That part was the last battle of the war for me, so to speak. Overcoming those thoughts that seem to intrude the brain takes some determination. Truthfully, I didn't put up much of a resistance at first, until I realized I would never have peace nor hope for my M as long as I was dreaming about OM.
She is so right when she says it was about how the OM made her feel. Those ego shots felt great, and that's part of the addiction. If he had not made her feel so special, why would she have even been interested? Just as you did the same thing when you met her and wanted to date her, right? If you had first started out by smothering her and talking about what kind of R the two of you could have if she would work with you, she would have taken off running. First, she had to feel attracted to you. And admit it, you know you did all you could to help it along.
The difference between your W and my situation was that there was no more contact once my EA ended. I sure hope she is able to stay the course when he comes to town next week. It will be difficult for both of you, I'm sure. You've got your team here pulling for you two.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
