Why? We are here, and we are listening. You are not alone. I hate to admit this, but I had just written a long post to you.....and I accidentally deleted it. I don't think I have the energy for another one right now. Wasn't really saying anything new. Just reminding you how you can't reason with a WW. How she will twist the facts around, turn it on you, stretch it, have a pity party.....on & on.
She is going to react to anything you say at this point. She will test you and she will swing from one end to the other. Do not let it sway your decision. Your children need your protection from this type of business being conducted in their home. You need it completely gone in order to have a chance of a healthy M. Even if she continued in a different location, you would know what she's doing with other men. You would still have the same problems in the MR.
Right now, she doesn't want to see it, doesn't want to believe it or accept your terms.
When she makes statements about how you make her feel like a bad person, etc., just let her spew. Do not even attempt to set her straight. Do not attend her pity party! She wants to see all of this through the vision she chooses, which is not accurate.
You can't change her mind through talk. Just can't do it. If it were possible, every LBH on this board would be talking nonstop. Some do it anyway, but to no avail.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
