Look....you don't have to ANSWER everything W as to say to you...especially when it comes to the OM. You are her husband fer cryin' out loud!! Then start acting like one instead of being a Wet Noodle around W.
This gives W a tacit permission to carry on with her A because she sees that you are willing to talk about OM with her which is why we call veering into the "gay boyfriend" territory. F@ck that!
Reclaim your balls and take back your power as her husband. Lose the fear. Tell your W that you are not willing to live in an open M and it is incredibly disrespectful to you to engage in an A with the OM. That SHOULD be your boundary.
You're trying to save your marriage...right? No? Then go and grab your balls back from W. Start standing up for yourself with courage, strength, and dignity.
Be Clint Eastwood...don't take chit from your own W.
