Sandi and Starsky, I just finished reading a lot of threads and think you both offer such realistic and practical advice (particularly in the Kieran thread), I seek your counsel. I don't know if there is an affair, EA or PA. I return home tomorrow and I don't know how to act. W has said she likes the "new" me helping around the house, and being happy (My 180's). I just don't know what to do. Continue doing my 180's, but remain distant and detached?
The more I think about it, the less I want to stay married if there is an A.
Then if an affair is indeed a dealbreaker, I suggest you do some digging and find out for sure what's going on. It would also affect how I would advise you to DB, personally. Because if she is, and she's just cake-eating, I'd suggest you pull waaaaaaayyy back. If she's not, and she's just a "walkaway wife," I'd suggest a slightly different approach. Either way you still do 180s, GAL . . . do your own self-improvements. But you'd DEFINITELY not want to do ANYTHING that smacks of pursuing or in any way of "condonement" if she's cheating on you.
