OK, started LRT for real last night. After responding to the last email, I did nothing but focusing on detaching and mentally, I think it worked. I'm still away at work and return home tomorrow
I received the following texts: 7:08 W: Did you have a good day? M: Ended up really good W: Good. Glad to hear that. I'm so pooped. Just poured a big glass of wine. Thanks for getting me all set up. M: Anything for you (was meant to sound sarcastic). W: Emojis of a smiley face, wine glass, and hands in prayer. M: No response
I didn't respond, even though I wanted to call or text or something, but I held firm.
At 9:30 this morning I received a checking in email basically saying that work was going to be busy, S6 stayed up too late and woke up too early and ended with "Anyway, I hope you have a good day, Love W."
I waited a few hours then responded "All is good here. Have been really busy as well. Have hardly sat down today. A storm is coming tomorrow, not sure I'll be able to make it home"
She responded with "Well I hope that doesn't happen, you guys have had quite the weather in the past week. Keep me posted."
I'm not going to respond.
My detaching while walking has been really helpful. I'm becoming more and more apathetic as each minute passes. Right now, I really do think I'll be fine if the marriage ends. I wouldn't have been able to say that even a few days ago. I've lost about 20 lbs in the last 3 weeks and now see a little definition in my abs (it's been a long time since this has happened). I was once very fit and well groomed, especially in grad school. Time, marriage, and children have eroded my once nice athletic physique, but I'm starting to see glimces of it again.
Sandi and Starsky, I just finished reading a lot of threads and think you both offer such realistic and practical advice (particularly in the Kieran thread), I seek your counsel. I don't know if there is an affair, EA or PA. I return home tomorrow and I don't know how to act. W has said she likes the "new" me helping around the house, and being happy (My 180's). I just don't know what to do. Continue doing my 180's, but remain distant and detached?
The more I think about it, the less I want to stay married if there is an A.
Last edited by SadDood; 03/03/1508:15 PM.
M: 8 years, together 9 M: 41 W: 32 D 4, S 6 ILYBINILWY 2/10/15 2/14/15-2/22/15 Left home 4/5/15 Suspect A, Initiated Sandi's advice from WW thread 4/19/15 W asked for D
