Starsky, I hear what you're saying. However, I believe Jesus would say to turn the other cheek and give her whatever she asks for. That material things don't mater. That I should forgive her for all of her transgressions and pray for her heart to soften.
I believe in God, but I'm having a hard time understanding what His master plan is at the moment.
We each have a different understanding of our Lord then. Even as He forgave the adulteress, he also said "Go and sin no more," and He also knew how to summon up His righteous indignation and throw over the moneychangers' tables when they were defiling the temple.
When it's just your pride or dignity, and doesn't affect other innocents, then YES, we are to turn the other cheek. And we're NEVER to be a jerk or an a-hole. But I do believe that as Christians we are allowed to (expected to?) protect our households, our finances, and certainly our families.
Also, it depends on if you believe that it's best for HER to give her everything she claims to want, or -- if in her current condition -- she is more like a child and you don't just give them what you know isn't good for them?
Sheltering her from the natural consequences of her own poor choices (sin, if you choose) is neither good for you OR her.
