How do I accomplish all of this without being a jerk? I am ordinarily a kind and caring person, and I don't want her or others to think that I am an a-hole. By the same token, I don't want to be given a guilt trip or taken advantage of.
Help please!
During my sitch, my mentor on here (and offline) gave me an invaluable piece of advice. In fact it was probably THE biggest piece of advice I got, maybe along with "You need to realize that YOU CANNOT CONTROL HER," but it was this:
In every situation, instead of making a decision based on "Will she be angry? How will she react? How will her reaction make ME feel?" . . . and instead replace it with "What is The Right Thing to Do in this situation? What is the thing that God Himself would have me do, if He were standing right in front of me?"
