But right now it's only me who is facing this. And my W is in a mid-life crisis. She's confused. And I know it takes a long time, if and when she MIGHT come to her senses. And even if she does regain her senses, there is no guarantee that she will want to be back with me. I get this.
I would ask then....
IF...SHE is the one in crisis...
Why do you allow her to dictate to you, what your future is ??
You seem paralyzed by fear, of whether this will "work" out or not.
And is totally affecting your answer about how you see your life, and future...
What is it, exactly...that YOU are facing ???
What senses , exactly, are YOU hoping the SHE comes to ???
You still sound quite a bit superior, and judgmental towards her and her choices.
Would YOU wanna come back to that ??
And I agree with Kat, you have given almost every bit of power, to your spouse. She holds the key on how high you jump, how you respond, how you interact, how you parent your children, etc...
