Moment of doubt: I just realized that it's been nearly a month since a vet weighed in on my sitch. If any of them happen to come around here — Wonka, sandi2, 25yearsmlc, Starsky309, Train, MrBond, Cadet, Mach1 — is it because...
you see no hope and have given up on my sitch? I'm just doing fine by myself? there is just nothing to say at the moment? you feel I don't follow the advice? there isn't enough happening right now? or something else?
I notice that other not-so-newcomers like Maybell, Card29 and HPoirot still get vets' input so all of a sudden, I'm a little worried.
I must admit that sometimes I find myself wondering whose threads I've missed as there are many newcomers coming here and it's hard to follow some.
Lately, I am pulling away from the DB site as there are some serious family issues that will require my attention very soon. Which means I will not be around the Boards much, if at all.
Now you asked about your sitch.
At this point, I feel that you are doing the right things so far as your W is still involved with the OM. Pull a bit back so W will need to put on her BGPs as she's told you she wanted to be on her own. Well...like it at all, W???!
Sandi, myself, and many others all say to the newbies that the WAW who wants to be "on her own" will need to put on her BGPs so she can see the stark contrast between "making it out on her own" with a loving family.
We despair at times when we read of Wet Noodle moments of the LBHs....so searingly dependable on the W that it pains us to read them here in the forums.
Some take longer than others.
What needs to happen for the LBHs with a WAW is to be courageous, decisive, and firm. Be a leader.
In your case, it was your put downs and negativity that pushed W away. You are finding a delicate balance between that and having W figuring things out on her own.
We cannot emphasize enough how GALing is essential in forging a new way of being for yourself and it is attractive to the WASes because you're making new discoveries. All of this makes you look more well-rounded.
