I've read through this thread and see that W is still involved with OM.
Here is what you need to do going forward:
-Stop talking about your sitch to other people. Full stop. -If you need to talk about your sitch, come here or talk it over with your own IC -Stop asking about W to children...this puts them in the middle (and it makes you look like a stalker!) -Get your mojo back...confidence, strength, dignity -Engage in your GAL with healthy people (not sure about being around alcoholics or drug addicts) -Put on something new each time you see W...one new shirt, pair of shoes, belt (you get the idea) -Look like a million dollars (clean shaved, or trimmed beard)
Once every 3 weeks or so, give your W a genuine and sincere compliment. It can be her new hairdo, clothes, or how she handled a problem--especially as a mother. It seems to me that your W's LL is WOA.
What is her second LL? Most of us have two primary LLs. Keep in mind LL is what makes her giddy...not how you give it. But it is how she receives it.
Mine are PT/QT closely followed by WOA. When I receive them in heaping doses, I feel good and loved.
Funny...when I show love to others, it is through AOS and PT.
