Luke, eh, you arent the first person to roll your eyes at me..and you wont be the last. LOL~ Somehow I can see that ... lol .. but I know where it comes from, you have one of the kindest hearts I have had the privilege of coming across
I wanted to say this. What you had was real...the love, the marriage. Dont allow this to take those memories away. Though I imagine you see it all a bit differently now.
I know this, but man at times its hard to imagine/remember.
This crisis is deep rooted. It has built up over years and years of unresolved issues and then it bubbles over. They dont have any choice in it.
All of that is hard to get your mind around. It takes some time to accept it all cuz its a whole lot. Yeah, the more I learn and can actually see it, I think us LBS's are sometimes to close to actually see it, so the more we detach the better we can see the big picture I realize she has been a time bomb. I do think there might have been some things I could have done better ... hind sight 20/20 kinda thing but yeah, not much I could have done honestly, and to be frank it would have not allowed me to take my own much needed journey. I am far better as Cali 2.0 than I ever was at the original version.
Children your son's age should not have 2 hours of additional work at home. The loose equation is ten minutes for every year of school. So a second grader should have 20 to 30 minutes of homework.
My niece was in an advanced program. They gave her hours of work after school. My sister decided to pull her out because it was putting a strain on my niece and the whole family.
There have been ramifications from those years.
The truth is that they all learn to read and write and add. You dont get a prize if you do it sooner. If the teacher has approached you about it, then you should consider doing something. Until then, he is ok, I think.
Yeah I agree. He is a smart kid, with everything going on I have to catch myself. When your W is of the MLC variety one has no choice but to step up and be the rock, the parent that your child/ren need, with this I do find my PapaBear instinct has gone up a touch, I feel responsible for his entire well being regardless if he iw with W or not, not to cast blame nor say she is not a good mother, she just is not able currently to be the mother/parent he needs. One day I pray she can, but deep down I know she is deep in crisis so I have taken this role and have to be careful of not being TOO protective.
So, I am glad you gave your opinion to your wife about it. However, you do know that by saying what you did, and I am not at all saying that you shouldnt have, but, it will make it about her and not about your son.
Yea, I know, you are rolling your eyes again. Heehee
Well, yeah ... I think you have said at points ... sometimes you have to just say what needs to be said. I am not rolling over and letting her have her way when I do not agree, I am open to discuss it. But when its concerns S we will have to co-parent regardless of crisis or no crisis. Might sound strange but I really feel it was a temp check/creating some friction, since we are going to individual mediation apts this week and our joint session is next week. Not mind reading .. just a feel.
