Thanks AJ and Kat. AJ, your suggestion that I think about the advice I would give to my s13, or a friend if they were going thru the problem of a walk-away spouse who is dating other men is interesting, and a helpful exercise.
But right now it's only me who is facing this. And my W is in a mid-life crisis. She's confused. And I know it takes a long time, if and when she MIGHT come to her senses. And even if she does regain her senses, there is no guarantee that she will want to be back with me. I get this.
Which is why the DB board, the DR book, and everyone's advice to me is so important. I can only control myself, and I am working on me right now, and doing my best for our kids.
But today I am being patient in dealing with my MLC W. Kat, I don't think I've given my W control of our sitch. I will know when it's time to give up and force the divorce. But it's not today.
