Thank you Mozza, I have read DR (going on 3rd time now). I just wasn't sure if the NC or 180 are still applicable in this case.
Why do you say "still"?
In any case, the no-gift rule couldn't be clearer, so the recommendation seems to be to let the kids prepare something, no more. And no, don't invite her to your outings. According to sandi2, WAW have to face the full consequences of their choices as soon as possible. And anyway, why ruin your evening and create more opportunities for awkwardness -- honestly, why were you even suggesting it?
Originally Posted By: EyeTie
One other question I have, even though she left me, she acts as though I am the one who hurt her and left her. She has nothing but anger and resentment towards me. Is this normal?
Yes, it's classic. Continue to read around these boards and you'll find many examples of this. I don't know exactly why that is, but it might be a way to deflect responsibility. Another potential reason is that she has plenty of reasons to resent you and that she never meant to separate, but you pushed her to it. Looking at your initial message, you seem to blow up fairly often. Are you working on this and if so, how? (other than "making an effort")
How long would you expect that it will take for your W to come back to the M? What will have to happen before then?
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
