I hear you, raliced. But prepare yourself for the fact that no matter what you say, your H is going to say and do whatever he wants -- as he has all along. You won't be able to control it. Believe me, I have to deal with the same garbage, but you're right that it's harder with young ones. One thing you could do when your kids ask you, is just tell them that you have a different perspective and don't feel that way. Also you can tell them that if you want to know how someone feels, you have to ask THAT PERSON, not get information from someone else. I don't know -- they are young even for that. I know you'll figure it out, just don't expect much from your H.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!