Moved too fast? Now what?

[Bing]

Sandi2, it's uncanny how spot on your comments are and how much that hits home - thank you.

I cannot control my wife or the outcome of this situation. I can only control myself. And at this point - as a shell of the confident, outgoing, energetic, successful man I used to be - it's best I concentrate on only my kids and my own well being indefinitely.

I can't force my wife to suddenly give up her addiction or become deeply attracted to me again. But I damn sure can't allow her to disrespect me and our family well I grovel at her feet and "play nice" and feed her CAKE. Old me, the best version of me, would stand up to that nonsense in a heartbeat. And so that is the path I am taking.

My plan is to rediscover my full potential and take control of MY life like the man I ought to be. Whatever the outcome, if I am true to this mission my kids and myself will be much better for it. I will not be a doormat while my wife chases her fantasyland desires with OM. There is a hard reality to her decisions and I will not force that on her, but I will not pander to any non-reality she may be suspended in.

Thanks all - do comment if you think of anything. I'll continue to update my progress as well.

Bing