Thanks for replying ganb8te. I really need someone to talk to at the moment. I'm at work and had to go and have a 'moment' in the shower room.
She isn't leaving because she wants to give the boys a steady home and also she's nowhere to go. I'd love to throw her out though but I can't because I'm not there.
The previous girlfriend was before I met her. She dumped me and I didn't take it at all well. Followed her to Barcelona where she'd gone to live, cried, begged, pleaded you know the drill. When I came home I was so wrapped up in my own misery and sought comfort from flatmates. I was so self pitying it was emabarrassing (and still is) but I couldn't stop. I learnt later during counselling that it was typical passive aggressive behaviour. I even knew that she wasn't 'the one' but I needed her as a crutch. I was unhappy with the rest of my life then as well.
I told WAW about this on bomb day and said this time it is different. I do not want to act this way and I won't and that she, WAW, is 'the one'.
1. Evidently 2. I haven't said that I have changed but that people do change. She has commented before that she has noticed that was really trying but it was no good she's not changing hr mind. 3. Oh yes.
I've been writing a response. Not one to send but one where express what I'd like to say. I'll post that in a while. Still working on it. Then I'll try a validation draft. I've got IC tonight so I'll be able to address it there too.
M: 57 / EW: 52 T: 21, M: 8 S: 18, S: 15 Bomb: 1 Jun 14 EA Aug 2014 I think PA Feb 2015 possibly sooner