Wife left me three weeks ago!

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Well, another successful interaction. When I went to get the kids W did not quite have them ready. I had to go in the house for a few minutes. MIL was there and we made pleasant small talk. W gave me a funny glance as I was upbeat and smiling. I just smiled back at her. Once again I noticed she was definitely weighing me up in terms of clothes and attitude. At one point she brushed past me and I know that she smelt my new aftershave (previously I never wore any), and I coukd see her brain thinking things over for a moment once again. She hasn't verbalised anything really about it in the last day or two but if I'm looking for baby steps, little steps forward, then the arguments have stopped, W showing signs of calming down, being more co-operative since I've stopped being the on call doormat.

As I was writing the last paragraph, W just called asking can I meet her for a new key to be cut for our house. When we first split she demanded I gave her my key back, which I did. My parents had a spare key. W, being unorganized as she is, appears to have lost both her own key and my key. Now only I have access to the house. I told her on the phone that I was going out soon and coukdbt meet her. She didn't complain. She asked again what days I was busy this week, so I told her. She said she'd pick the kids up today from school. I said I wanted to see them. She mentioned how I didn't really see them yesterday due to my shortened visit. I just said I want to see them for a bit today and could have them tomorrow if she liked as I would like to take them out. She said she was off work all weekband didn't need my help and that she didn't know what she was doing tomorrow. She doesn't have any plans as far as I know and was just being a little awkward. I just said let me know with some notice. The dynamics of our current relationship are definitely starting to shift as I show her I'm not the on call run around push over she thought I would be. At the moment I still see her ploughing ahead decorating, selling the house, and moving into rented accomodation. I do see some changes in attitude from her though. The key is consistency, I know.