She kept hinting around it over the last 2 months of the process. And then about 30 minutes before she had to go to the courthouse she brought up the fact that she had been thinking about reconciliation over the past couple months.
I nipped it in the but and told her that it was best that we are divorced.
I declined my offer based on realizing that she has lots of issues to deal with (just like I have). I've been working on those issues for this past year. I've made myself into a better me, and continue to do so every day.
She is the same train wreck that she was when she split... She hasn't changed, nor do I expect her to change. She is playing the same mind games with her current boyfriend that she did with me.
A couple months ago.. maybe early October I remember being on a coaching call. I was describing all the evil stuff my Ex has done, and was continuing to do. The coach asked me a simple quesiton - Why would you want to stay with a person who treats you like this?
I couldn't answer that question simple question logically.
I was hanging onto the dream I had as a kid. The one of having a nuclear family. The false view of my partner in life being as dedicated to me as I was to her.
I let the dream be just that. And started the long hard process of moving on with my life. I'm still in process, but doing ok at it.
I declined her offer because I realized that I am on the only one necessary to be happy in life. That I didn't want a life of being dragged into her craziness. I have to move on.
I'll be back her dropping a note every once in a while to keep you guys (and girls) apprised to how things are going.
Me: 35 Her: 33 D : 16 S : 9 Together: 14 years Married: 12 She left 4/14/2014 Separated: 5/25/2014 OM Confirmed 7/2014 She filed 8/7/2014 I Filed 10/21/2014 Divorce final 2/12/2015
