Yeah, I guess it was a kind of terse. I can say that I made a decision that I'm not going to bend over backwards to 'tailor' my emails with her. I tried to do that early on and got analysis paralysis. However, I do appreciate the feedback as i don't want to inadvertently say something that is definitely able to be taken the wrong way.
As far as daycare, they are already one-sided. Its a home daycare so there's only a husband and a wife we've had our kids there since they were born. Also, I live in a small town so most people are separated by only two degrees.
They were the ones that found out about OM first. They had made some comments over the last year or so about how W would drop off kids on her days off and then not pick them up until right before they closed the center, while I was at work. I did that every once in a while on my days off, so didn't think anything of it. I never really asked W why, but I can kind of remember her saying she had to run errands and all. I didn't mind either way.
The month before BD, W bad-mouthed me for a couple weeks in front of them, which was unusual. Then seeing that and the thing above, when W up and just left me and the kids; they were already suspicious. Well, then a friend of theirs asked them what was up with W and I, since this person saw W and OM together on two separate occasions. One of them was a trip for training for work that they all happened to be in. So, after hearing this, they spent about a month trying to tell me there was something more going on with OM, but I kept explaining it away as a friendship. They also see these huge changes in parenting that W is now making and they do have my kids best interest in their heart. So, I have to be careful in some of their advice.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
