My stance at the moment is to let her live her life while I reflect and try to focus on me. In January, I told her I didn't want to interact beyond the practicalities of the kids because I need to move on. I'm good at being silent and distant. The "no pursuing" rule is easy to apply for me because it means doing nothing. What I'm not so good at is detach, but the no-contact has helped me a lot. I see a therapist since BD.
But you also said this:
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Feb 2-25 | Plans for moving abroad are nixed, D papers are delayed at my request, flirting experiments begin
Are you experimenting flirting with WW?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
