hold on! - 8

[u-turn]

Plans?
Well - I think any and all former plans are on hold right now. I feel though that I have truly learned how to handle stressful situations with some degree of poise (I guess there is something positive that came out of this whole BD/A/inner digging thing - maybe I actually did/am fixing things about myself)

Now it's all about the current problem. If this happened a couple weeks ago I may have thought differently, but this is not just her problem it is ours.

#1 find and hire an attorney (we cannot risk messing this process up). She has her wits about her enough to research this and has e-mailed me a name that was referred to her.

Now of course I do not want to minimize the issue of drinking and driving, and I do believe in paying for mistakes, but I do want to minimize the impact of this. I hope to convince her to pursue pressing charges against the guy at least to show that she was upset and not making good decisions. Not that this will help, but it can't hurt.

Keep our household running as usual, comfort the kids (this I have to knock out of the park - they are obviously suspicious of us and I do not want to lose their trust), work extra (we will need the money), and Yes - comfort and help W - show her that I can and will help her handle this.

I have a feeling there will be talk of her putting on her BGP here, but I feel that I need to do what I can (it's what I signed up for 21 years ago and I still believe in that), and at least she may respect me for this.

I do hope she is not using me - I know this is a possibility. But she seems sincerely regretful - I don't know how this will affect us, but we will see.