It sounds as though S could be a good plan Phun....early days to be thinking about D - and in-house S's are hard - as many on this board will agree. Maybe give yourself more time to think about possible D. Things must still be pretty raw and it's useful to give some time for the A to play out too...It may take a good while (6-24+ months) but they don't generally last in the much longer term.

I think Sandi is spot on with her post. Your W is panicking now and don't be swayed by that. She is all into OM, but then she's telling you you're hot too? She's hoping you won't follow through and then things can be just as she had hoped - OM on the side and safe secure home with no financial worries. The sooner she has to put her BGPs on the better, and then her life starts to look a little less full of romance, and a bit more problematic...

You're doing really well my friend..

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus