OK, a quick journal. I just had a convo with my best friend who I've known for most of my life. He is having a tough time, his s17 was having a difficult with depression and they just moved him into a facility (out of the home, out of the state) where best friend and his W will have no contact with their son for several months.
I knew this would be hard on him, and so I called him over the weekend to see if he needed someone to talk to, to just listen. We had a nice convo.
But then he told me he had spoken to my W "more than once" telling her to make a decision on our marriage. To work on it, or to end it and move on. Now he is a "take charge" kinda guy. And he loves me and wants the best for me, and so I know he doesn't like having me hurt while my W is out playing the field. But I've told him many times I was not ready to move on, so I'm disappointed that he wasn't listening to me. Isn't it interesting how the different actors in our lives make free choices that may have an impact on things like our marriages?
But dang it. There's that flash of hope again for my marriage. Here someone is essentially telling my W to divorce me, and she continues to refuse. No mind-reading on her motivations for not signing the divorce papers, but as long as we continue to be married there is just a faint glimmer of hope.
